Today’s topic is stress. Here are some quotes from the articles below that I want to highlight:
Stress “can create deficits in a child’s intellectual abilities, crippling the capacity to learn.”
“Research has found that neurons in the brain of a chronically stressed individual may have fewer and shorter dendrites (pathways for sending information). This deficiency impairs communication with other dendrites, reducing the brain’s ability to process information effectively.”
“Frequent symptoms of stress such as low impulse control, difficulty concentrating and irritating behaviors often match the definition of A.D.D./A.D.H.D.”
Most children with dyslexia are under a constant state of stress in school. We are struggling with almost every subject because almost every subject requires us to read. After dealing with that stress for so many hours each day, we want to go home to a place that makes us feel at ease.
Unfortunately, those who care the most about us and our futures are sometimes the ones who cause us to feel the most stress: family, friends and tutors. They worry about us, and they want the best for us. However, especially as young children, we can feel the weight in the room every time the topic of dyslexia comes up. We know the people who care about us are stressed and we know that we are the cause of their anxiety. That leads us to feel more stressed (and guilty), we have more trouble concentrating on learning, and we all end up in a vicious cycle.
It may seem impossible, but loved ones need to find ways to lower their stress levels if they want to help students lower their stress levels. If your child sees that you are not at all concerned, the extreme pressure to perform will be lessened, providing the child with the ability to remain calm and allow their brain focus on learning.
By the way, the attitude that everything will be fine should not be an act; you should believe that everything will, in fact, be fine because it will be. Your child has tremendous advantages over his or her peers that may not be immediately apparent due to the limitations of the traditional systems.
Never view dyslexia as a learning disability. Instead, view it as a learning advantage that the schools are not capable of handling at the moment. Make sure your child sees you adopt that approach in all of your dealings and communications with others. Let your child know that there’s no doubt he or she will be able to overcome the difficult aspects of dyslexia – it’s just a matter of when and how, and whether he or she will get to use some fun gadgets (assistive technology) along the way.
Everything will be fine. No worries.